I’ve always been a firm believer that everything in life is a choice.
But wait, you might say; getting sick isn’t a choice, getting into an accident isn’t a choice, having cancer isn’t a choice. No, those aren’t choices we actively make; but how we respond to them is our choice.
I’ve been handed some pretty challenging cards in my life; getting pregnant at 18, separating from my sons father at 21, losing everything, being completely broke and wondering how I’ll put food on the table, and getting into a car accident that put my life on hold for almost 4 years, to name a few. I’ve had moments of self pity, I’ve shed a lot of tears, and I’ve wanted to give up so many times.
I never did though.
I let myself feel the failure and succumb to the pain, and then (with the help of my amazing friends and family) picked myself back up again. I woke up every morning determined to find something good in the day. I learned how to be grateful for what I had. I forced myself to try every day, and when something didn’t work, I tried again.
I made the choice to remain positive, and to focus on a better life.
I know how easy it is to give up; to let life take over and dwell on the negatives. I know how challenging it is when you’re going through a difficult time, to find something good in your day, but it’s so important. It can be as small as noticing the birds flying or a hot cup of coffee, anything that makes you smile.
I love sunrises, they fill me with happiness and purpose; I love watching the colours change as the sky comes alive for another day. I love smiling at everyone I see. I love noticing the small beauties around us; the flowers blooming, or the leaves changing colour. I also love making others happy; I write notes to my fiancé (even though I know he thinks they’re corny), I tell my son to have a wonderful day, I keep the house clean (this one is partially for me haha).
All these little things happen throughout the day, and each time they happen, I smile. I let them bring me up, and fill me with joy. When I’m having a bad day, I look for these little joys, and remember that life is pretty amazing.
Each day is a choice; we can either sit in the dark focused on the hardships of life; or we can open a window, and let this amazing life fill us with joy.
What do you do to bring joy and happiness to your life? Let me know in the comments!!
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